December 27, 2019
It is now two days after Christmas. My house is still a bit of a mess, but Christmas 2019 is in the books. We had a wonderful day here at home. Presents were opened, although Brandon chooses to open his very, very slowly and finished about 3 hours after the rest of us. Our friends, Rick and Mike, joined us for good food and visiting. Our Christmas evening was quiet and fairly mellow. I went to bed at 9:30…that is the earliest I have gone to bed in months.
And now we are in the middle of winter break from school. Brandon is home from school for 2 1/2 weeks. For someone who really likes structure and routine, Brandon is not always happy during school breaks. It is hard to schedule everything when there are five of us living in this house. One thing we do schedule is when we talk about when Lorie, Brandon’s support worker, is coming.
Along with autism, Brandon has OCD. He gets “stuck” sometimes. His current obsession is when Lorie is coming to take him to Cabela’s. He wants to talk about it constantly. As in every 30 seconds. It is exhausting. And he seemed to want to talk to only me about it. Not Steve. Not his brothers. Me. All. The. Time.
After some crying and complete frustration, I remembered that I do have a timer on my phone. I started with 5 minutes and would ignore any attempts to talk about Lorie and Cabela’s until we heard the magical timer noise. We are up to about 20 minutes, although I do switch it up occasionally and only make him wait 10 minutes. I am always amazed that it doesn’t matter where he is in the house, he hears the magical noise that means we can talk about Lorie.
My timer has provided just a little bit of structure to a chaotic time for Brandon. And that makes all of our lives just a tad bit easier.